Shamed.

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Standing amidst hundreds of eyes, the female figure was mercilessly humiliated.

The drape of the feminine figure was undone without a grace.

Even so, no-one heard a scream, not even a sob.

The hell didn’t break loose.

No Krishna appeared;the drape was only of the usual length.

I stood there among the spectators, reeling the Panchali humiliation episode from the epic Mahabharata, in my mind.

True that the fall of the drape in public made me uncomfortable.

Then,  did I do something against it? NO!

Simply because…

I was buying the drape that female mannequin was wearing!

© Mridula 2015

Profound conversations with my 5 year old baby girl.

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withoutmyzoey

As a recently bereaved mom, one of my fears is that, as the years go by, the memories of my baby girl may begin to fade. I hope to remember everything about my baby ….her likes , her dislikes, her cute mannerisms, her know-it-all attitude, her saying “I love you too mom” ….just to name a few things. But I know it’s only a matter of time. New memories will take the place of old ones and the old ones will tend to fade. So writing has become very important for me. If it’s all written down somewhere with all the nitty-gritty details, I know I can read it for years to come and know that her memories are intact.

These days I find myself trying to recollect our conversations with her during those last 12 weeks of her life.Yes those memories tend to bring tears to my eyes …….However…

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My entry for Ecotale Competition

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Here’s my entry for Ecotale Competition,….if you think my entry is in tune with the theme, please VOTE, thanks.

My Scribbles

I had participated in 140 Characters Ecotale Challenge 2015 conducted by Organic BPS in relation with World Environment Day.

From the 650 entries, they had shortlisted 30 tales and mine found a place there :-)

Theme- ‘Seven Billion Dreams. One Planet. Consume with Care.’
-One alone can change the world -You!

Ecotale 2015 (Link)

If you think my entry is in tune with the theme, please VOTE, thanks.

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Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)

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Copied from Wikipedia FOR GENERAL INFORMATION!😛

And, this post speaks for itself🙂

Living in the era of new generation media, this will help all of us to deal with people and situations, with proper understanding….All the best!!!

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a Cluster B personality disorder in which a person is excessively preoccupied with personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity, mentally unable to see the destructive damage they are causing to themselves and to others in the process.

Symptoms

People who are diagnosed with a narcissistic personality disorder are characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance. They have a sense of entitlement and demonstrate grandiosity in their beliefs and behavior. They have a strong need for admiration, but lack feelings of empathy.

DSM-5

Symptoms of this disorder, as defined by the DSM-5, include:

Identity: Excessive reference to others for self-definition and self-esteem regulation; exaggerated self-appraisal may be inflated or deflated, or vacillate between extremes; emotional regulation mirrors fluctuations in self-esteem.

Self-direction: Goal-setting is based on gaining approval from others; personal standards are unreasonably high in order to see oneself as exceptional, or too low based on a sense of entitlement; often unaware of own motivations.

Empathy: Impaired ability to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others; excessively attuned to reactions of others, but only if perceived as relevant to self; over- or underestimate of own effect on others.

Intimacy: Relationships largely superficial and exist to serve self-esteem regulation; mutuality constrained by little genuine interest in others’ experiences and predominance of a need for personal gain.

Pathological personality traits in the following domain:

Antagonism, characterized by:

Grandiosity: Feelings of entitlement, either overt or covert; self-centeredness; firmly holding to the belief that one is better than others; condescending toward others.

Attention seeking: Excessive attempts to attract and be the focus of the attention of others; admiration seeking.

DSM-IV-TR

Symptoms of this disorder, as defined by the DSM-IV-TR, include:

  • Expects to be recognized as superior and special, without superior accomplishments
  • Expects constant attention, admiration and positive reinforcement from others
  • Envies others and believes others envy him/her
  • Is preoccupied with thoughts and fantasies of great success, enormous attractiveness, power, intelligence
  • Lacks the ability to empathize with the feelings or desires of others
  • Is arrogant in attitudes and behavior
  • Has expectations of special treatment that are unrealistic

Other symptoms in addition to the ones defined by DSM-IV-TR include: Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends, has trouble keeping healthy relationships with others, easily hurt or rejected, appears unemotional, and exaggerating special achievements and talents, setting unrealistic goals for himself/herself.

Narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by an over-inflated sense of self-importance, as well as dramatic, emotional behavior that is in the same category as antisocial and borderline personality disorders.

In addition to these symptoms, the person may display arrogance, show superiority, and seek power. The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder can be similar to the traits of individuals with strong self-esteem and confidence; differentiation occurs when the underlying psychological structures of these traits are considered pathological. Narcissists have such an elevated sense of self-worth that they value themselves as inherently better than others, when in reality they have a fragile self-esteem, cannot handle criticism and often try to compensate for this inner fragility by belittling or disparaging others in an attempt to validate their own self-worth. Comments and criticisms about others are vicious from sufferers of NPD, in an attempt to boost their own poor self-esteem.

Another narcissist symptom is a lack of empathy. They are unable to relate, understand, and rationalize the feelings of others. Instead of behaving in a way that shows how they are feeling in the moment, they behave in the way that they feel they are expected to behave or that gives them the most attention.

An extensive US survey found a high association with other disabilities, especially amongst men: mental disability, substance use, mood, anxiety disorders and other personality disorders, bipolar I disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, and schizotypal and borderline personality disorders were among the associated disabilities.

Professional attainment

In 2005, Board and Fritzon published the results of a study in which they interviewed senior business managers, assessing them for the presence of personality disorder. Comparing their findings to three samples of psychiatric patients, they found that their senior business managers were as likely to demonstrate narcissistic traits as the patient population, although were less physically aggressive.

Causes

The cause of this disorder is unknown; however, Groopman and Cooper (2006) listed the following factors identified by various researchers as possibilities:

  • An over sensitive temperament (personality traits) at birth.
  • Excessive admiration that is never balanced with realistic feedback.
  • Excessive praise for good behaviors or excessive criticism for bad behaviors in childhood.
  • Overindulgence and over valuation by parents, other family members, or peers.
  • Being praised for perceived exceptional looks or abilities by adults.
  • Severe emotional abuse in childhood.
  • Unpredictable or unreliable care giving from parents.
  • Learning manipulative behaviors from parents.
  • Valued by parents as a means to regulate their own self-esteem.

Recent research has identified a structural abnormality in the brains of those with narcissistic personality disorder, specifically noting less volume of gray matter in the left anteriorinsula.This brain region relates to empathy, compassion, emotional regulation, and cognitive functioning.

Source: WIKIPEDIA – Available at : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

Some other helpful links, for further reading :

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/07/140703102510.htm

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/01/how-to-spot-a-narcissist-online/283099/

http://glo.com/relationships/signs-youre-a-social-media-narcissist-9621.gallery

http://psp.sagepub.com/content/34/10/1303.short

http://www.medicaldaily.com/social-media-sites-are-full-narcissists-baby-boomers-facebook-millennials-instagram-317322

Justice and karma

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The hen prayed lord for a chick.
The lord gave her an egg. The overjoyed hen loved and protected the chick keeping it under her wings.
The hungry and old kite prayed lord for food.
Justice was done. It saw the chick and made it its food.
The hen’s agony never ended.
“Why justice to the kite was done hurting the poor hen and chick?”,  the nine year old  boy asked the lord.
“None can escape from karma”, came the reply.
Decades passed.
Till date he doesn’t know how bizarrely justice and karma works.
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© Mridula 2015